Verbal Abuse

What is verbal abuse?

Verbal abuse is the repeated use of words to belittle, threaten, shame or frighten a child. It includes name-calling, insults, constant criticism, threats of harm or abandonment, and comparing a child unfavourably to others.

The effects of hurtful words

Words shape how children see themselves. Children who are regularly insulted or shamed may:

• Develop low self-esteem and believe they are worthless
• Experience anxiety, sadness or anger
• Struggle with friendships and trust
• Find it harder to concentrate and learn

Constructive correction

Children need correction — but correction can be firm without being cruel.

• Describe the behaviour, not the child. Say "Leaving your books on the floor is unsafe," not "You are so careless."
• Stay calm. Lower your voice rather than raising it.
• Explain what you expect and why.
• Recognise effort and improvement.
• Apologise when you get it wrong — it teaches children respect.

Every child deserves to be spoken to with dignity.